I just want to vent. I am a 25 year old woman, and I am currently in a 4-year relationship. I am very lucky because my boyfriend is an ideal guy—kind, responsible, and has all the good qualities. We are happy, we are also living together, and I can say that I am satisfied with our life.
But what I don't understand is why it seems like I'm the one making the issue of my boyfriend's ex's girlfriend. I've been separated from my ex for a long time—we've been broken up for 5 years. We have no communication, no contact, no connection at all. But this girlfriend of my ex, it seems like she's obsessed with me because she's always criticizing and insulting me on Facebook. Literally talking about me over and over again, even though I'm not doing anything.
The most painful thing is the kind of insults she posts. She says I'm the one chasing her boyfriend. She says I'm ugly, she posts all my flaws online. Then she brags about how beautiful she is. But honestly, I don't care about her beauty—we all have our own beauty. And I don't need to compare myself because I'm secure in myself and I'm happy with my boyfriend now.
Maybe another thing that makes him angry is that I'm close to my ex's family. Since before, we've been really close to their family, especially my ex's sister. We're like siblings until now. It's normal for us to meet and talk because we've been friends for a long time. But he, he can't accept that. In the end, even my ex's family, he got into a fight. My ex's parents, they don't like him either. Almost everyone on his ex's side, he doesn't get along with.
Because of his attitude, I'm also affected. Even though I had no intention of getting involved, I was the target of his anger. Not once, I thought about getting back with my ex. I really don't have any feelings anymore, I don't care anymore. But why is he making me listen and fighting instead of fixing their relationship?
Until it got to the point where I sent him to the barangay. It's been about two years, because his fighting has gotten so bad. I thought he would stop after that, but he didn't. The ending was that I was the one who came out as the bad guy, and he made himself the victim and made everyone feel sorry for him. Instead of stopping, it got worse. He's like a dog that barks non-stop, and I'm always his target.
Now, I'm so tired of the situation. All I want to do is be quiet and happy with my boyfriend. But why do I always seem to get caught up in other people's problems? I don't know what else to do.
If you were in my situation, what would you do? How would you deal with someone who is so angry with you even though you are doing nothing?
