My situation is difficult right now. Just call me Mira. Twenty-five years old, I have a good job and my dream is simple—to be happy and find someone I really love. But there's one thing I've been thinking about for a long time: how do I tell my parents that I don't like what they're introducing me to?
There was a man who had been a long-time friend of our family. He was kind, had a good job, and came from a good family. In everyone's eyes, he seemed like the "ideal" guy for me. My parents even said that he might be the one for me.
The problem is, I don't have feelings for him. No matter how many times we meet, no matter how much effort my parents make to develop us together, there's really no spark. I don't like him, I don't love him, and I can't see myself in a relationship with him.
But my mom and dad always remind me to give him a chance. They say there's nothing to lose if I try. I understand that they just want me to be happy and secure in life, but for me, I shouldn't force myself if I don't have feelings. Love, that's not forced.
Sometimes I feel like I'm losing control of my own life. It's like I can't choose who I want to be with anymore. I don't want to hurt my parents, but I also want to be true to myself. I don't want a relationship that feels like an obligation, because I know it won't last.
I plan to talk to them calmly. I won't fight them, but I will explain clearly that I understand their concerns. I will say: “I don't want to fool myself or him. A relationship won't be happy if only one person wants it.” I will add assurance that I have confidence in myself and know that the right person will come along at the right time.
And even though I don't like what they're introducing me to, I won't disparage him. It's not his fault. He's a good person, but he's not for me. What's important is that I still be respectful to my parents and show that I can make decisions for my own happiness.
In the end, I know that I have the right to choose who I love. I hope that one day they will understand and respect my decision. It won't be easy, but I will still choose to be true to myself.
