My life suddenly changed a month before the wedding. My BF and I were supposed to get married in March 2025. All the plans were in place—the gown was ready, the venue was paid for, and even our family was excited. But one night, he spoke to me seriously and that's when all my dreams collapsed.
He said I needed to know something before we got married. He admitted that he had a BF before and that he was bi. But he said his female heart was much heavier. He said he said all this because he wanted to be honest and fair with me. I was nervous as I listened but I tried to stay calm.
It didn't end there. He also said that he wanted to continue with the marriage because no one in his family or friends knew that he was bi. In everyone's eyes, he was a manly man—handsome, with a fit body because he loved to go to the gym, and a macho ex. Who would have thought that he was hiding a secret? He also said he wants to have a family and his own children, even if he is bi.
As he spoke, I didn't know whether to cry or get angry. I felt intense pain and disappointment. I didn't interrupt him, I listened to every word he said. But deep down, I felt like he was just using me as a cover-up to hide his true nature.
After he finished speaking, I couldn't control myself anymore. I cried so much and slapped him hard. I said I'm not going to continue with the marriage. I can't marry someone who doesn't have a whole heart for me. I'll be hurt even more if we continue and I find out that his heart is different.
What I went through was painful. I cried every day. It felt like all my dreams were crumbling. But as time went on, I learned to be grateful because even though it hurt, he confessed before the wedding. Otherwise, we might have continued and ended up with annulment which would cost hundreds of thousands pesos and even greater pain.
Now, I've slowly been able to move on. I've learned to put myself first and not accept being just an “option” in other people's lives. It's hard, yes, but it's better to be hurt now than to live a lie forever.
And in the end, I chose to walk away and let him go. Because I know I deserve true love, not the love that comes with a secret.
