My girlfriend is beautiful. Honestly, she's probably the most charming woman I've ever met. When we're with our friends, she's so kind, knows how to get along, and seems perfect. But when it's just the two of us, that's when I see a side of her that sometimes, I don't understand.
He's like a different person. He suddenly becomes grumpy and critical. He says everything he notices that he doesn't like about me. I can't blame him if there are things he doesn't like, but sometimes he's really OA.
Example? We went on a date once at my favorite burger place. I know it's a bit unhealthy, but only occasionally. As soon as we sat down, he said: “Don't order a burger. You're already fat. Just have a salad.” I smiled so the conversation wouldn't drag on, but inside, I was annoyed. Can't I just get what I want for once?
It's not just about food—she cares about clothes too. “Change that, it doesn't suit you.” She always forces her style on me. She wants me to wear clothes that I'm not comfortable in. Sometimes I wonder, why does she seem to want to change me?
I'm not perfect, yes, but I also have my own taste. Shouldn't we still have our own freedom even if we're partners?
I don't know if this is normal or if he's overdoing it. I love him, yes. I don't want to ruin our relationship just because of this. But I'm stressed because it feels like I don't have a voice anymore. All I want is simple—eat what I want and wear clothes that I'm comfortable in. But why does it always seem like there's something wrong in his eyes?
Sometimes I think, maybe I'm the one in the wrong. Maybe I'm being too defensive. But when it happens over and over again, I feel like I'm losing my appetite. It's also draining when you're constantly forced to do things you don't want to do.
Honestly, I'm wondering if we should talk about this. Because maybe he's not aware that he's so controlling. Maybe I need to speak up properly. Not to fight him, but to say that respect for my simple desires is also important to me.
If I don't do this now, the day may come when I won't be happy anymore. And I don't want to end up there.
