My husband's behavior has suddenly changed. Sometimes he's happy, sometimes he seems angry at the world. I wonder why he's like this now. I'm trying to understand, because I know he's going through something. I'm Rosalie, 25 years old, and I love my husband. So even though it's hard, I continue to be patient.
He had been faithful to his job as a credit and collection manager for five years. He never shied away from responsibility and was hardworking. So when he was accused of stealing from the company, he felt a lot of pain and shame. He couldn't accept that he had never done anything wrong, but was simply accused.
Even though he found a new job that was almost as good as his previous income, he still hasn't returned to his old cheerful personality. He's easily angered and always has a bad temper. Sometimes I'm the one who gets hurt by his words. I understand that he's carrying a burden, but it's not easy for me either, as it feels like we're at war inside the house every day.
I've come to the point where I'm thinking about giving up. But every time I think about our happy days, our plans together, and how much I love him, the sadness and anger are overshadowed. I don't want to leave the person I chose to spend my life with. But it's also not right for me to be the one to lose strength because of the gravity of the situation.
In this situation, it's important for you and your spouse to talk. Let him know that he's not alone. He may be acting unkindly, so it might be more helpful for him to talk to a professional, like a psychologist or counselor. This is not a weakness—it's a step toward healing his feelings. As a spouse, your support is important. But also remember that there is a limit to what you can take, so take care of yourself too.
It's not easy to understand someone who is going through something, especially if you yourself are hurting. But with the right conversation, love, and asking for help, you and your spouse still have hope to return to the happy partnership you once shared.
