Rude brother-in-law

I'm Elva. I never thought I would reach the point where I would have to release this kind of story.

It all started about a year ago. One night, my husband told me that he wanted to bring his brother, who was in college, to our house. I didn't object. I understood that he was the one who was paying for my brother-in-law's education and I knew it was important to him to help him.

At first, it was okay. My brother-in-law was quiet. He was shy and always seemed to rush into his room. But as time went on, I gradually noticed his actions that I didn't know if I should think were accidental or intentional.

Once, I had just come out of the bathroom, my hair was still wet and I was getting dressed. He would suddenly enter the room without knocking. I would be surprised, he would be stunned for a few seconds before suddenly leaving. At first, I tried to ignore it. I told myself, maybe he was just out of his mind, or maybe he was in a hurry. But when it happened again and again—it seemed like it wasn't an accident anymore.

I can't even count how many times I've caught him staring at me for a long time, especially when my husband is away. I know I'm not the only one who thinks this because I can feel it—the look is different, the feeling like he's insulting you even though he doesn't say anything.

One night, I couldn't take it anymore. I talked to my wife. I admitted that I was lonely, that I wasn't comfortable, that I didn't feel right about what was happening. She just said, “I'm sorry, Elva. You're still young. I'm sure there's no malice.”

I sighed. I understand, but how long will I understand? I am his wife. I should also feel protected in my own home.

So now, I'm trying to explain to him again that this is not a simple prank. This is not a situation that can be easily overlooked. I don't want them to have a fight, but I just want him to show that he also values ​​and respects me as his wife.

If I were the one to follow, I would like to have a proper talk with my brother-in-law—tell him that this is no longer acceptable. If he doesn't know how to be respectful, it might be better for him to just move to a dormitory or board near his school. This doesn't mean he no longer has a family—but there are limits to understanding.

Because in the end, my wife is my life partner. It's more important to me that the trust and peace in our home are protected. I won't let anyone—family or not—destroy that.