The truth is, I've been carrying this resentment for a long time, but I'm only now able to tell you about it. Maybe I'll feel better once I've let it out. I'm 28 years old and I just gave birth on Dec 12 of last year. When I was about to give birth, my mom and dad came to be with me and support me. Even though my husband's family was only three houses away, my parents chose to help me during those times.
They lived here with us for 5 months. And during that time, I didn't feel like they were a burden. My mom does almost everything—doing the laundry, cooking, renovating the house, and taking care of my two other children who are in school. My dad doesn't just help; He even fixed the clogged CR, built a new kitchen, and built another CR to make our house more complete and comfortable.
After a few months, they went back to the province. I thought everything was over and everything was fine between my husband and me. But one day, we had a fight. In the heat of the conversation, he suddenly said that I didn't owe him anything. He made it seem like he was the one who fed my parents when they were here. He added that even though my parents were here, he didn't have any complaints. It was as if he wanted to convey that I should be grateful to him and that we were indebted to him for what he had done.
I can't hide that I was very hurt by the words he said. For me, it's only natural for a couple to help each other's families, especially when there's a need. I don't understand why there's a need to count or bring up such things. What's even more painful is that even now that we're okay, every time I remember what he said, the sadness and resentment come back.
I just shared this to get the weight off my chest. I don't really talk to anyone at home about this. I hope that by sharing this, at least in some way, I feel better. And if anyone else has experienced this, I know I'm not alone.
