I would like to share something that I have been thinking and feeling for a long time, but I just haven't been able to tell my boyfriend enough. I love him so much, and I am so grateful for his love and care for me. But honestly, there are times when he really goes too far.
It's like he always has his eyes on me, 24/7 CCTV mode. No matter where I go or what I do, he wants to know. If I don't respond to a chat or call right away, he gets restless. He asks for details — where I am, who I'm with, what time I'll be back. Sometimes, it feels like I don't have my own life anymore because I have almost no personal space.
I understand that he is doing this because he loves me and doesn't want me to get hurt. He just wants to make sure I am safe and that I am not in any trouble. But with all the love and care he has, I am starting to feel like I am being suffocated. I no longer feel the freedom that I used to feel. It seems like the excitement and natural flow of our relationship is disappearing.
I don't want to ruin our relationship. I don't want him to think I'm getting cold or losing my love. But I also want him to understand that it's important for me to have personal space and trust. It doesn't mean that if I don't respond right away or if I do things he doesn't know about, I'm ignoring him or abandoning him. Instead, I just want him to respect me for being myself.
Sometimes, I'm afraid that if this continues, the day will come when I'll get tired of it. I don't want that, because I love him and I want to be with him. But I also know that for a relationship to be strong, there needs to be a balance between love and freedom. We need to trust each other so that the relationship doesn't become restrictive or boring.
I want to explain to her that love is not just about being together all the time or seeing each other all the time. Love is also about trust, understanding, and giving the freedom to be yourself. When there is too much control or surveillance, it is no longer love but a lack of trust.
I hope we can have an open conversation where we can both express our feelings without hurting each other. I want him to know that I'm not fighting him, but that I just want our relationship to be better and happier if we are given space and respect.
I don't want a relationship that's all about control and doubt. I also don't want a relationship that feels like a prison. I want a relationship that's full of love, trust, and respect. I hope he understands that for our love to grow stronger, he also needs to give me personal space and not be afraid of losing me because that's not what's happening.
I love him and I hope he loves the parts of my life that he doesn't see. I hope he appreciates me for who I am, not just as his girlfriend but as a person with his own world, dreams, and needs. I hope he'll be more open to the idea that love shouldn't be a reason for being clingy or controlling, but rather a way for trust and respect to grow.
