My girlfriend is still stalking her ex and until now, I don't know how to deal with it. I'm Carlo, 26 years old. I have a girlfriend now and we've been together for almost a year. Honestly, I love her and I feel like she loves me too. We're happy, we're always together, and it feels like my life is complete because of her. But in the past few months, I've noticed something that's affecting my mind.
I caught him repeatedly checking his ex's profile on Facebook. At first, I just ignored it because I thought it was normal for him to be curious about how his ex was doing. But as the days passed, I noticed that he was always checking new posts, pictures, and who his ex was with.
Of course, I asked him why. His answer to me was, "I'm just curious. I don't love him anymore." But I admit, it's hard to believe. Because if he really doesn't feel anything anymore, why do you even need to peek? If it's really over, there shouldn't be any interest, right? That's when I started asking myself: Am I really his priority now? Or is there still a part of his heart left from the past?
I don't want to forbid him from everything. I know, he has freedom as a person, and I don't control him. But I also can't hide that I'm jealous and nervous. Because for me, if you're serious about your relationship now, you don't have time to stalk someone who's already gone. I want honesty and respect, and I hope he doesn't even look back at the person who should be gone.
Now, I'm confused. Sometimes I think maybe I'm just overreacting and just being too jealous. But sometimes, I feel like there's something really wrong with what he's doing. I don't know if I should just let it go or if I should take it seriously. I love him, and I don't want to ruin our relationship just because of something that might be small... but what if this is a sign that he hasn't totally moved on?
So now, I'm really confused. I don't know if I'm wrong, or if he's the one who's lacking. All I know is, I want a relationship with complete trust and no secrets.
