My husband is my first and only love. I got married early, I was only 19 then and now 24F married to 26M. We have been married for six years and have one child. Within our relationship, there is absolutely no cheating issue. I always check his phone and I didn't see anything. But this July to August, he suddenly changed.
He didn't go to work, was always anxious, and could barely sleep. When payday came, he went in but the next day, he quit again. He cried, begging to resign. He said, “I'm not myself, I'm scared.” That's when he confessed.
I found out that at the resort she went to, they were having an event. The manager got them drunk, who was not only an acquaintance but also my friend and former sister-in-law. When they got home, he insisted on taking the woman home. On the way, the woman bought more alcohol. That's where it all started.
My husband said the woman pulled him, kissed him and forced him into the tricycle. Because he was very drunk, they had a fight. But it didn't last long because his younger brother didn't stand up. Nothing really happened until the end. What's painful is that while it was happening, he was thinking about me. But when he heard that the woman was ready to be a hooker, that's when he came to his senses. He sped up the tricycle, went home immediately, and carried his guilt.
Umamin siya kasi guilty na guilty at ayaw na niyang makita pa yung babae. Hindi raw siya tinantanan, laging nanunukso, laging lumalapit. Takot na siya na baka umabot sa gulo.
I couldn't take it. I hit the woman. His face was thick, he was even bold and threatened. He said, don't tell because his family might kill him. He even said that he might turn the story around and make it out that my wife raped her. He even threatened that he would have my wife killed if we reported him.
But I didn't give up. I collected screenshots as evidence, including his threats. I talked to management and I got him out of there. Only then did I find out that it was his job – seducing men for drinks. Some people have even caught him performing miracles in the sand or under the table even when there was another guy. That's why he and his ex-wife broke up.
Now, my husband comes home almost every day. He always makes video calls even at work, always reminding me that he loves me. I can see his repentance. He says that if it happens again, he will end it all himself.
I chose to forgive him, not because I was a martyr, but because I saw his guilt and his fear of losing us. In our religion, divorce is not something that is done lightly. If there is a chance to fix the marriage, I will do it for our child.
My Decision
I know many will say I'm a fool or a martyr, but I know my wife best. I wouldn't trade her for a woman who's used to seducing drunks. This is our marriage, this is our family.
It hurts, yes. I always remind him of what he did. And that is the consequence for the rest of his life – the weight of his sin and the suffering it caused me. But if God knows how to forgive, so can I.
I chose to fight for the family, not for the woman.
