My ex-partner (25F) was with me for 7 months. At first, our relationship was happy and going well. We were together almost every day and because we were so close to each other, it got to the point where I found out that she was 5 months pregnant. I was the father because we were together most of the time. But as time went on, I started to wonder more and more whether the relationship I had entered was right.
Usually, our bonding is check-in. He said that he and his exes used to be like that—they didn't go out to the malls or go on long rides. But he said that only with me did he experience those simple walks that felt like normal dates. Because of that, I believed that maybe I was the one who was different and that I would provide a better relationship with him.
But as the days passed, I became more and more curious. I developed a habit of asking questions and doing a background check about him. That's when I discovered that he had a lot of body count. It made my mind even heavier when I found out that three of them were just f* buddy** and most of them were not protected. For me, that was a huge issue because it brought fear and doubt to our situation.
As I learned all of that, I became conflicted with myself. I thought, “If this is what his past is like, can I really accept it?” It's also undeniable that he has immature traits, and it doesn't seem like he thinks much about what he's doing. I've even read posts that say that when a woman has a lot of body count, it seems like she's not content and becomes more miserable in life. And I admit, sometimes I wonder if that's true.
Now, I feel even more confused. I don't know if I should fight for this relationship. There's a child involved and I'm going to be the father, but on the other hand, my trust in him is slowly disappearing. It's just hard to think that in the end, I might be the only one who gets hurt.
