
My name is Nick, 32 years old, married to a 29-year-old. We have been married for seven years and have two children. During these years, I can say that our married life has been smooth and happy. Even though there have been trials, we overcome them and we don't fight often. I am the one who works for the family, but because of life in the province and the high expenses, especially for the children's education, my salary is really not enough.
One day, my husband said he wanted to work to help. Of course, I wanted it too to ease our financial situation. He applied and was accepted. The only catch was that he needed a month of training in Manila. He started in May 2025. At first, everything was normal. We talked every day and said hello. But in the middle of the training, I was surprised when he suddenly sent me nude videos. I didn't ask for it, but he sent me one almost every day. I thought he might just miss me, so I just let it go and I was even happy at the time.
After training, he returned to us in June 2025. This is when I noticed that he seemed to have changed. He was always tired, often absent, and we rarely had sex. When it did happen, he was very different—very wild compared to before. I don't know where that sudden change came from. I feel like he was looking for something in me that he wasn't looking for before. Sometimes I wonder, maybe he learned or experienced something in Manila that I don't know.
Now, he is assigned here in the province so we only meet at home at night. I noticed on his messenger, there is a man who always says hello but he doesn't reply or open the message. There are also calls on his SIM that he doesn't answer. I know this is not enough evidence, but as a wife, I feel that something is different. I don't know if I'm just overthinking or if something really happened while he was in training.
Honestly, I'm having a hard time suppressing this doubt. I don't even know how to start talking to him about this. I don't want to ruin our family, especially since we already have children. But with each passing day, I feel more and more that he's not telling me something important. I'm just asking you, as those who read this, if it's right for me to be suspicious or if it's just me playing with my own mind.